Making a choice to do nothing

Cause and effect.  Do A and get B as a result.  That happens in very controlled environments with few external forces.

It also happens, most often, when you are using a calibrated machine to get the result.

Predictable outcomes don't happen when you have people involved.

Even if someone is suppose to do B after you do A, there is that interesting decision-making process called "free will".

Free will doesn't have to be consciously exercised, it can also happen without knowing it.

This week, I've had experience in my law practice with cause and effect (and free will) and in my parenting life.

As a results-driven person and as someone who attempts to plan for every conceivable outcome, I can get myself really wrapped up in choosing the most strategic "A" to get the "B" I want to have happen.

I rarely throw my hands in the air to see where the chips are going to fall.

But maybe making a choice to do nothing should be the first thing I consider for my actions.

If you have ever been part of a conversation where someone is upset and you didn't respond to anything they are saying, you just let them talk and talk and talk, it is a very profound and sometimes healing way to solve a problem.

Making a choice to do nothing is not procrastination in disguise.  It's a strategic decision to put yourself on hold to see what happens without further intervention from you.

The results of doing nothing may be better than what you expected.