Posts tagged self confidence
Pack order

If you have a dog in training, one of the first things a teacher will tell you is to establish yourself as the alpha dog or the pack leader. The alpha dog is the top dog and the one who sets the rules for the pack that all other dogs follow. The alpha dog gets to eat first and gets the best sleeping spot. Speaking of sleeping, the alpha dog sleeps higher than dogs lower in the pack. From a certain vantage point, they are on a pedestal.

I’ve started to notice that in almost everything in life, there is a person, consciously or not, trying to establish pack order.

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I’m good enough. I’m smart enough.

People in their late 30s and in their 40s may remember a sketch on Saturday Night Live of a character named Stuart Smalley.  Smalley, played by Al Franken, read affirmations that always included “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.” The content of the reoccurring sketch isn’t memorable but the underlying theme of affirmations comes to mind decades later.

I recently finished watching the 2015 miniseries “The People v. O.J. Simpson.”  I am in awe of how Marcia Clark managed to survive that trial.  It took place in 1992 and she was the lead prosecutor.  The news, her peers, and anyone looking for an easy target ruthlessly scrutinized everything she did, from her trial strategy to her haircut. 

As an attorney and a woman, it is second nature for me to compare myself to her situation.  In comparison, I didn’t think I could ever do what she did.  Why do I think that way? 

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